Penis & Testicle Concerns / Question
Published: January 15, 2000
Dear TeenHealthFX,
I have this new sex partner. I am really attracted to her, but when we are close I lose my erection from being nervous. I really am frustrated. What can I do?
Signed: Lose My Erection With My New Sex Partner
Dear Lose My Erection With My New Sex Partner,
Relax and take it slow!
TeenHealthFX thinks your concern is probably due to nervousness or caused by stress and performance anxiety (your worry that you are doing the right thing and the stress associated with that). A lot of guys have trouble holding an erection with a new person, when they are feeling nervous about performing. Take more time with foreplay. Use your imagination to help you relax.
If you have masturbated and held an erection without a problem, it is most likely due to that anxiety. If you have had problems with keeping an erection during masturbation, you may want to talk to your doctor about it. I know that it can be scary to talk to your doctor about these types of issues, but they are used to it and have heard it before. Your doctor will not share this information with anyone and it is important for you to be able to communicate with him/her about these types of issues now and in the future.
No good conversation about sex would be complete if going to the doctor and safer sex was not discussed. Any sexually active teenager or teenager considering having sex should be checked out by a doctor just to make sure everything is okay. A good place to do this is your local teen health center or Planned Parenthood. These centers can see teenagers for sexual health reasons without your parent's permission and on a low/no cost basis. While there, you can get a check-up and discuss safer sex and birth control to decrease your risk of pregnancy and STDs. Remember, if you are already having sex, use a condom every time.
Signed: TeenHealthFX
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