I’m so tired of getting beaten by my boyfriend and my family always telling me I'm so retarded.
TeenHealthFX is very concerned to hear that you are in a physically abusive relationship with your boyfriend, and is also very sorry to hear that your family tends to put you down rather than to be supportive and encouraging of you in a positive way.
FX thinks that you deserve to be treated with care and respect by your boyfriend, your family, and anyone else in your life. And we feel strongly that you need to do two things to get yourself into a healthier space with these situations. The first thing FX strongly suggests is to find a safe way to end this relationship with your boyfriend. To learn more about what defines an abusive dating relationship, as well as what to do to get yourself out of an abusive relationship, please read “Could I Be In An Abusive Relationship?” under the Rape, Abuse And Violence category of the Emotional Health section of the website. The information in this question/answer will give you some guidelines about how to safely end an abusive relationship, as well as a list of resources that are available to you to help you in this process.
The second thing that FX recommends is that you find ways to build up a healthy support system for yourself. It is important to seek out and establish positive connections with people who will act in a caring, protective, and helpful manner towards you. Some possibilities might include:
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If you are ever in immediate danger of being harmed by your boyfriend, go to local police station, hospital emergency room, or call 911.
You can also contact the following hotlines for more information and for help: