TeenHealthFX is very concerned about your friend, and extremely worried about what is going on with her ex. FX thinks that you need to strongly encourage your friend not to give into what her ex wants, and to tell a trusted adult about this as soon as possible. If your friend refuses to talk to an adult about this, then let her know that you will. Your friend (or you) can speak to her parents, your parents, a counselor or teacher at school, a private therapist, or anyone else who can be trusted to intervene in a helpful way that will ensure your friend’s safety. Your friend needs to be protected, and her ex needs to get help for himself to deal with these problematic behaviors and requests before he hurts himself or someone else. Remember that an adult does need to be the one to intervene – do not try and deal with your friend and this situation all by yourself.
Your attraction to this friend is a different matter. It is up to you whether you want to talk to her about this or not. If you are attracted to her, but she sees you as a friend, it might create some awkwardness or tension if you were to tell her. However, you may feel a greater sense of tension if you keep it in – only you can know what is best for you and the relationship. However, FX does recommend that you wait until this issue with her ex has passed before you consider discussing your attraction to her. She will need your support and your shoulder to lean on right now – letting her know about your attraction puts another thing out there for her to think about and deal with. And it sounds like right now she has her hands full.
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