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Basketball Coach Raped Me

Published: September 20, 2007
Dear TeenHealthFX,
I wrote in about a week ago and I know its stupid that I so afraid. My basketball coach raped me and i don't know what to do. He tried to do it again. He threatend to hurt me if i tell anyone and im afraid to get help. i just need to know how i can make it stop without making him angry. Im afraid i might hurt myself. what can i do?
Signed: Basketball Coach Raped Me

Dear Basketball Coach Raped Me,

 

Most sex offenders use fear and intimidation to keep their victims silent. Your coach is no different. He is committing a serious crime and most likely will continue to do so until he is held accountable for his actions. That is why it is so important that you communicate to a responsible adult what your coach has been doing. Although you are scared you must remember you have done nothing wrong and it is the coach who has plenty to fear. Hurting yourself will not change this man’s behavior. He is a sexual deviant who needs to be held accountable for his actions. Once the authorities are aware what your coach has done he will be charged with a crime and ordered not to have any contact with you. He has absolutely no right to be angry at you for his actions.

 

You have been through a horrible ordeal and need help sorting out the complicated feeling that can occur when someone is sexually assaulted. There are many specially trained therapists who deal with this type of trauma and can help you on the road to recovery.

 

Keeping this secret keeps you trapped and cut off from the people who love and support you like you parents, family and friends. The only power this coach has is your silence. Once that is gone, this man will have to answer for the horrible things he did to you.

 

If you get to the point that you are seriously considering suicide or are afraid of your impulses then you need to seek help immediately. You can call 911 or go to your nearest hospital emergency room. In northern New Jersey you can also call the crisis hotline from Morristown Memorial hospital at 973-540-0100. Outside this area call the Suicide & Crisis Hotline, 1-800-999-9999, 24 hours, 7 days a week

 

 

If you would like information on finding services in your area or would like to more information on sexual abuse checkout the Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN) website or call them at 1-800-656-HOPE (4673), 24 hours, 7days a week.

Signed: TeenHealthFX

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