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Bisexual, Stressed At Home - Don't Have A Clue What To Do

Published: December 10, 2003
Dear TeenHealthFX,
I'm feeling very confused about a lot of things right now. I think I might be bisexual, I'm stressed at home, I think my mates dad is hitting on me, I feel as though I don't have any mates really, people I talk to but nobody who really cares about me. I can't talk to anyone about this, also I can't stop blushing for no reason and I feel my life has no direction. Everyone else knows what they're going to do when they leave school. I don't have a clue what to do.
Signed: Bisexual, Stressed At Home - Don't Have A Clue What To Do

Dear Bisexual, Stressed At Home - Don't Have A Clue What To Do,

 

It sounds like you have a lot of things going on at once and are feeling overwhelmed. We know it feels like you cannot talk to anyone, but we think it is important that you do - it may be helpful just to get some of these things off your chest and get support. We suggest you talk to one of your parents, or someone at your school like a teacher, counselor or coach. They can refer you to other sources of help if they feel you need it.

 

Questioning your sexuality can be very confusing and you are not alone - check out TeenHealthFX's section Sexuality: Gay, Straight & Bisexual to see what other teens are feeling. Feelings of attraction to the same sex may be a sign that you are bisexual, or it may just be part of going through adolescence and exploring your sexuality. This will become clearer to you in time. If you do decide to identify as bisexual or gay, you might want to see if your school or community has an organization for gay/lesbian/bisexual teenagers. You might also check out these websites:

 

Lambda GLBT Youth Outreach

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It is very inappropriate for your mate's father to be hitting on you. If his behavior continues to make you feel uncomfortable, you will need to tell one of your parents or another adult. You deserve to be able to spend time with your mate without worrying about their father acting inappropriately towards you.

 

As for your blushing, unfortunately, not much can be done to control that, but as you work out the other problems that are troubling you, hopefully you will be more relaxed and will blush less. You are not the only one with this concern - read, Blushing is Taking Over My Life for more information.

 

It can be easy to feel like your life has no direction as school is ending. We suggest you try talking to a guidance counselor at your school for some help. He or she will have a lot of resources available to help you figure out the next step.

You are in a time of great transition - finishing school and questioning your sexuality are some big ones - and it is easy to feel lost and confused. We hope it is helpful to talk to someone about all these issues. It is easy, when you are going through so many difficult things at once, to feel like you do not have anyone who really cares, but we hope that you are able to get the support you need to start feeling better.

Signed: TeenHealthFX

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