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Anything Wrong With Anal Sex

Published: March 26, 2002
Dear TeenHealthFX,
I'm a 17 year-old girl who is sexually active. My boyfriend has a 9" penis (erect) and loves to push it in all the way. I like it but prefer to have it shoved deep in my butt. Is this normal? Is there anything wrong with anal sex? It feels better than standard sex.
Signed: Anything Wrong With Anal Sex

Dear Anything Wrong With Anal Sex,

 

There are a lot of nerve endings in and around the anus and many people find the stimulation of this area pleasurable. There is nothing wrong with anal sex; it is simply a matter of individual preference.

Many people avoid anal sex because they find it painful or uncomfortable. The anus is not as elastic as the vagina, and the anal sphincter responds to initial penetration by contracting. This is why it is so important to go slowly and wait until you are relaxed. You should also use lubrication such as saliva, vaginal secretions or a water based lube (water based will not deteriorate a latex condom). If your partner tries to penetrate you before you are ready, you risk tearing the anal tissue and bleeding which makes disease transmission more likely. In your case you have to be extra careful since your boyfriend's penis is large.

 

If you and your partner are going to engage in anal sex you should be aware that anal bacteria can cause serious vaginal infections and cystitis. It is imperative that your partner wears a condom and replaces the condom and/or washes his fingers thoroughly before he enters your vagina after anal intercourse. Also, if you use your tongue, cover the area with a dental dam or some kitchen plastic wrap or you run the risk of a stomach infection or a sexually transmitted disease (STD).

Anal sex is considered a high-risk behavior for HIV and other STD transmission.  See TeenHealthFX's answer  about anal sex safety.

The delicate tissue in the rectum is prone to small tears that make entryway for the AIDS virus. Latex barriers (condoms, gloves) and lots of water-based lube, to ensure the condom does not break, are essential.

Follow your own instincts about having anal intercourse. As you can see, it is not risk free and whoever is on the receiving end has the risk of damage to their anus. If you want to try it - go ahead (but take all the above precautions). If you are uncomfortable or scared of the idea of anal sex - then do not do it. Your boyfriend may be disappointed, but if he cares about you, then he will respect your wishes.

Signed: TeenHealthFX

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