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Hear Parents Having Sex

Published: January 28, 2003
Dear TeenHealthFX,
I often hear my parents having sex and many times I get aroused and end up masturbating from the noise. Is this normal?
Signed: Hear Parents Having Sex

Dear Hear Parents Having Sex,

 

Many people are aroused by the sound of other people having sex, and it is perfectly healthy and natural to masturbate when you are aroused.  What is making this different for you is that the people you are hearing are your parents. 

The only person who can tell you if this is OK is you.  If you feel comfortable with this situation, and understand that acting on these feelings in any way other than masturbating would be inappropriate, then you should not allow these feelings to concern you - you are having a normal response to something that you find sexually arousing, and you are responding to it in a healthy way.  However, if you still feel concerned, you might want to talk to someone about it.  In northern NJ you can call the Access Center from Atlantic Behavioral Health at 888.2471400 for help in finding a therapist. Outside of this area, you can log onto the US Department of Health and Human Services Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration's website to locate services in your area.  Again, we offer this referral if it is something you feel you need.

We do not have much control over what we find arousing, so you do not need to worry about whether or not the things that arouse you are "normal."  You simply need to make sure you respond to those things in a way that feels healthy and comfortable for you and that does not take advantage of or hurt anyone else.

Signed: TeenHealthFX

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