You stated that your parents are “supportive of all” of your decisions, however, there must be some part of you that worries they are not going to be completely supportive of the idea of your having a baby at this point in your life or you wouldn’t be feeling so scared to tell them. If your parents are not completely supportive of you doing this, it might be hard for you to think of wanting something they don’t agree with – it might also force you look at whether you are truly ready to be a parent at 18 years old.
It’s wonderful for parents to be supportive of their children’s dreams and goals, however, parents are also being helpful to their children when they guide their children on how to balance desire and responsibility. Having a child is a huge decision and a tremendous responsibility – it is not something that can simply be undone, so it is important to make sure you are really and truly prepared for this step in your life, as well as to consider whether this is the healthiest decision for you, your boyfriend and for this baby. FX thinks it is important for you to discuss this issue with your parents so you can find out how they feel about the idea, get their thoughts and feedback, and so that you can process why it is important for you to do this right now in your life given that you certainly have plenty of time ahead of you for children.
When you think about having a baby right now, and in talking to your parents, FX would like you to consider the following:
Think about the issues of jobs and finances. Given how you answer the following questions, consider whether it would make sense for you and/or your boyfriend to go on in school or move up in your careers before putting the time and money into a baby. Remember, it’s much harder to go to school or change careers once you also have the responsibility of taking care of a child.
You mentioned not having your own place to live, so consider the following about that:
You said your boyfriend wants to have a baby. If you answer “yes” to either of the following questions, then you need to consider your motivations and whether they are the healthiest for you and for this baby.
There are several more questions FX would like you and your boyfriend to think about, as well as for you to discuss with your parents. You can find them in the answers to Trying to Have a Baby and The Cost of Raising a Baby.
Again, FX can appreciate how much the idea of having a baby must mean to you, but we want you to really think about what this will mean for you, your boyfriend and this baby on a variety of levels to ensure the health and happiness of all of you!