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17 And Pregnant

Published: February 5, 2009
Dear TeenHealthFX,
i am a 17 year old senior in high school and i have lately been under alot of stress and usally it doesnt get to me and i can get away from it all but it past week i found out i was pregnant and this is not something i can get any from i am now 8 weeks and my parents dont know i dont know what to do i know abortion is a option but i think i want to have the baby but what do i do about my parents they would kick me out where i am from this just doesnt happen what eles can i do my parents and i dont get along and i just dont know what to do a baby right now i just dont know
Signed: 17 And Pregnant

Dear 17 And Pregnant,

 

TeenHealthFX can appreciate all of the stressors you are currently facing: How you want to move forward with this pregnancy, what to do about telling your parents, and how to manage your pregnancy and parenthood at 17 if you decide to have this baby.

 

Your three options are abortion, giving the baby up for adoption, and keeping the baby to raise yourself. What option you decide will depend on your values, beliefs and what you feel you can cope with. Consider some of the following questions:

  • Does having an abortion go against any religious or moral beliefs you have, or do you worry about the emotional impact it might have on you?
  • If you decide to carry the baby (to give up for adoption or keep), will you be able to cope with the reactions of family and peers as you go through your pregnancy?
  • If you carry the baby, will you be able to deal with any changes you might need to make with your schooling schedule?
  • If you keep the baby, do you have the financial resources and mindset right now to raise a child?
  • If your parents ask you to leave their house if you keep the baby, will you have a place to go? How will you support yourself and the baby? Who will take care of the baby if you need to work to support the two of you?
  • If you keep the baby, are you ready to give up your freedoms of doing what you want, when you want and putting yourself first?
  • Will keeping the baby interfere with any educational or career goals?

 

As far as your parents, if you decide to keep the baby, you will have to tell them at some point. In telling them, FX thinks you should have some kind of plan worked out as to how you will make this work – such as how you will handle this financially, who will help take care of the baby if you need to work, where you plan to live (if you hope to live at home or plan on making other arrangements). For your sake, the baby’s sake, and the best chance at a smoother conversation with your parents about this – it will be very important for you to think this through and have a plan in place. In addition, if you think your parents really might “kick you out,” when you tell them, you need to be prepared for this and may need to have a plan of where you can go right away if you tell them and the conversation ends with you having to leave.

 

FX recommends that you consider the questions above and that you talk to someone as soon as possible to determine what direction you want to go with your pregnancy, as well as to make whatever arrangements you need to based on your decision (i.e., scheduling the abortion or setting up pre-natal care for yourself if you decide to keep the baby). You could speak to your gynecologist, your school nurse or school social worker, or a doctor at an adolescent medicine clinic or Planned Parenthood. It is important for you to have some support and guidance right now in figuring out what you need to do.

 

You can also contact PregnancyLine.com in terms of deciding what to do and how to handle the situation. PregnancyLine.com is a resource for women who are faced with the stressors of an unplanned pregnancy. By going to PregnancyLine.com and entering your zip code, you can access pregnancy information or locate a women’s clinic in your neighborhood. Many of these clinics offer such things as free ultrasounds and confidential consultations. By visiting this website it is your first step in getting some information about your options, some education about pregnancy, and some resources about where to go for help and support. PregnancyLine.com is a free and confidential service. For more information, go to www.PregnancyLine.com or call 1-866-88-WOMAN.

Signed: TeenHealthFX

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