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Girlfriend Is Expecting Sex, But I'm Not Ready

Published: January 13, 2008
Dear TeenHealthFX,
I am a 16 Year old male who is in a long distance relationship. The next time I see my girlfriend, she wants to have sex with me. Honestly, I feel pressured. However, I do not think I'm ready. How do I tell her? Because she is expecting sex. Signed please help
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Dear Girlfriend Is Expecting Sex, But I'm Not Ready,

 

TeenHealthFX wants you to feel at peace and accepting about your decision to wait to have sex. Everyone is different when it comes to sexual readiness – the important thing is to be aware and respectful of where you are at with this issue. So congratulate yourself on knowing what feels right for you and wanting to stand up for what you believe is the best decision for you.

 

FX recommends that you talk to your girlfriend about how you feel as soon as possible. Let her know that you are not ready to take that step yet, and that you wanted to tell her as soon as possible so that she wouldn’t feel overly disappointed during your next visit with one another. You can certainly sympathize with her that your decision to wait may feel difficult or hard for her, but at the same time you need to stress the importance of her respecting your time frame with this and your need to wait to have sex until you feel fully ready. Let her know that you hope she can be patient and understanding about this and not pressure you. And if she truly cares about you and respects you, FX feels certain that she will be able to honor your request and how you feel.

Signed: TeenHealthFX

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