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Strange Same Sex Dreams

Published: 11 de Setembro de 2000
Dear TeenHealthFX,
I am female and I have some strange dreams sometimes. In my dreams I myself am having sex with a girl, but on my mind I was having sex with a guy. In reality, I am not attracted to girls, but am very attracted to guys. These dreams confuse me. Why?
Signed: Strange Same Sex Dreams

Dear Strange Same Sex Dreams,

 

It is very common to have dreams like this not only in your teen years, but throughout your life. We can tell you that it is completely normal for teens and adults to think about relations with the same sex. You are still sorting out your sexuality and may be confused. While you are awake it seems easy to concentrate on those boys that you may like, but while you are sleeping your body often combines seemingly normal thoughts about the guys you like with feelings you are having about being a girl or even the other girls around you.

You may be thinking that you may be a lesbian or have lesbian tendencies, but it is not realistic to base these thoughts just on your dreams. It is very common in your teen years to have "same sex" crushes and not be gay, lesbian or bisexual. However, these are all important steps in determining your sexuality. Also, keep in mind that your sexuality is a predetermined, biological trait that you have no control over. There are organizations for straight and gay teens; one on-line site is Youth Resource and another is iwannaknow.

Listen to what your heart says while your awake. Your true feelings will make themselves clear in time. Your dreams are beyond your control and often very unclear. So please do not be discouraged or too confused about what they mean, because it is hard for any of us to interpret exactly what they are telling us. It is best to explore all of your options and feelings while you are awake.

Signed: TeenHealthFX

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