TeenHealthFX - Answers - Doesn't Like To Live

Suicide / Question
Published: August 3, 2004

Dear TeenHealthFX,

If someone has always thought that s/he doesn't like to live (which is a persistent thought), does this indicate that the person has any mental problem/ illness? And the person in her twenties has not had any particular hobbies/interests since childhood, so it is difficult for her to find happiness in her life. She used to call help lines for help. However, she now doesn't, as she doesn't even care to call or she doesn't think this helps. She feels it is tiring to live and sometimes hopes/wishes that she doesn't have to [live]. This thought and other 'unhealthy' thoughts come to her mind suddenly [mostly at nights/ in the early mornings], which can last for days. She is afraid of going to doctors, worrying that others would know her identity and that the medicine would have severe side effects. What suggestions do you have for that person? Is there any medicine that would be good for her?

Signed: Doesn't Like To Live

Dear Doesn't Like To Live,

Persistent thoughts of suicide are frequently a feature of clinical depression. Check out TeenHealthFX’s response to Why Am I Depressed to see more symptoms of depression.

Calling help lines can be extremely helpful during times of despair but it is not a substitute for ongoing therapy. Many people feel self-conscious when they seek help from a mental health professional although they usually get over it once they start the process and see the value in it. Sometimes talk therapy alone is not enough and medication is also used. There are many effective antidepressants available, but only a medical doctor who has performed a thorough evaluation, can make a practical recommendation. While many medications have initial side effects, they usually fade away after a person's body gets adjusted. Questions about medication side effects are always a good subject to bring up with your doctor.

If he/she gets to the point that you are seriously considering suicide or are afraid of their impulses then they need to seek help immediately. They could call 9-1-1 or go to their nearest hospital emergency room. In northern New Jersey they can also call the crisis hotline from Morristown Memorial hospital at 973-540-0100. Outside this area call the Suicide & Crisis Hotline, 1-800-999-9999, 24 hours, 7 days a week

If he/she lives in northern New Jersey and needs help finding a therapist you they can call the Access Center from Atlantic Behavioral Health at 973-247-1400. Outside of this area they can log onto the US Department of Health and Human Services Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration website for referrals in their area.

Signed: TeenHealthFX