TeenHealthFX - Answers - 14 And My Life Is Going Down Hill

Suicide / Question
Published: April 29, 2009

Dear TeenHealthFX,

Well first my life is gonig down hill, i drink i smoke pot i pop pills and i smoke cigs, and im only 14. Im almost kicked out of my school, my moms pregnate.My father is an alcoholic I get in so much trouble, and im failling everything, ive had 5 people pass away in one year on me, and i also have ADHD so it makes it way more harder to learn and concentrate.Ive thoguht about suicicde and attatmpted it, but im just not sure wat to do anymore like im no one to them now, ever since my parents seperated my life been down hill from there, i almost got taken away so many times, drama seems to love me alto too, i just feel im gonig to give up very soon. and hopefully someone can add me or w.e amd talk to me b.c thats what i need the most plzzz:(?

Signed: 14 And My Life Is Going Down Hill

Dear 14 And My Life Is Going Down Hill,

TeenHealthFX thinks that it is very important for you to speak to a trusted adult about what you are going through as soon as possible. It is critical for you to become connected to at least a few adults around you who can be helpful to you. There are many issues you are coping with right now – suicidal feelings and urges, problematic family dynamics, substance abuse issues, loss issues regarding the five people in your life who died this past year, and having ADHD. You need to be meeting with mental health professionals who can provide the necessary treatment to address these issues so that you can start to feel better and begin the work to get your life back on track. There are adults around you who do care about your well-being – therapists and psychiatrists who will want to be helpful to you and other trusted adults (such as certain school staff member, extended family members, neighbors, coaches, or whomever else) who will be more than happy to be there for you to offer whatever guidance and support they can.

Please consider the following as potential resources:

If you live in northern New Jersey and need help finding a therapist you can call the Access Center from Atlantic Behavioral Health at 973-247-1400. Outside of this area you can log onto the US Department of Health and Human Services Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration website for referrals in your area. You can also contact your insurance company to get a list of in-network mental health providers or check with your school social worker or psychologist to get a list of referrals in your area.

National Institute on Drug Abuse & Alcoholism, 1-888-644-6432

Rainbows, a non-profit, international organization that works to help children and teens who have had to deal with some kind of loss in their lives.

Your school social worker, psychologist, or guidance counselor.

Al-Anon/Alateen Hotline, 1-800-344-2666, 8am-6pm EST. Help for young people who are the relatives and friends of problem drinkers. www.al-anon.alateen.org
National Association for Children of Alcoholics

If you get to the point that you are seriously considering suicide or are afraid of your impulses then you need to seek help immediately. You can call 911 or go to your nearest hospital emergency room. In northern New Jersey you can also call the crisis hotline from Morristown Memorial hospital at 973-540-0100. Outside this area call the Suicide & Crisis Hotline, 1-800-999-9999, 24 hours, 7 days a week.

Signed: TeenHealthFX