Suicide / Question
Published: June 22, 2009
Dear TeenHealthFX,
Everyone says that I have the perfect most wonderful and ideal life and I do but only on the outside. On the inside I am screaming for help,for somebody anybody to know what I'm going through. I have developed bulimia and I started cutting myself and having serious suicidal thoughts. I often write poems and lately all the poems that I've written have something to do with death. I've tried talking to my parents but they are soo stupid and lost in their own little world that they simply replied "you'll get over it. pretty young girls like you aren't supposed to have stress you can handle it" How worse can it get?? I'M ONLY 14!! How on earth will I be able to handle it on my own. And everyone thinks I'm pretty but I'm not I'm UGLY!!! My friends tell me not to commit suicide but this afternoon 2 people told me that I should kill myself because no one will care and no one will miss me anyway. And thats exactly how I feel that no one cares. I feel like killing myself right now. I HATE MYSELF AND THE WHOLE WORLD HATES ME TOO!!
Signed: Everyone Says I Have The Perfect Life, But I Hate Myself
Dear Everyone Says I Have The Perfect Life, But I Hate Myself,
TeenHealthFX completely understands that it may feel to you like the whole world hates you, however, we are completely confident that there are people out there who will not want to see you suffering and who will care enough to want to help you in whatever way they can. FX thinks that it is very important for you to reach out for help with these issues so that you can build up a positive support system for yourself – a support system that will provide the treatment you need and the support and encouragement to get you through this very tough time. FX thinks it is important for you to consider the following:
· If your parents are reluctant to help with this, speak with a school counselor, teacher, neighbor, extended family member, or any other trusted adult who can intervene on your behalf to get you the mental health treatment you need right now.
· Meet with a mental health professional who can set up a treatment plan with you. You need to be in some kind of therapy to deal with the bulimia, cutting, suicidal thoughts, and low self-esteem issues. In addition to your own individual therapy, FX thinks it would be very important for you treatment plan to include some family therapy – to educate your parents about what is going on with you and what they need to be doing to help you feel loved and supported by them.
· Set up a consultation with a psychiatrist to be evaluated to see if you would benefit from psychotropic medication. Your low self-esteem and suicidal thoughts may indicate some kind of depressive disorder that could be helped with medication. In addition, many people with eating disorders do benefit from certain types of medications.
· Consider taking part in some kind of group therapy with your peers as an added source of support. Group therapy may be offered right at your school, or you may be able to find therapy groups for teens at a local hospital or mental health agency.
Please do not resort to suicide or give up on life and the hope that things can get better. Your situation can improve – but you need to start by reaching out for help from some of the people around you and from mental health professionals in your area.
If you live in New Jersey, you can contact the Eating Disorders Program at Atlantic Health at 908-522-5757 for more information and to set up an evaluation. Outside of New Jersey you can contact the National Eating Disorders Association at 1-800-931-2237 for more information and referral services.
If you live in northern New Jersey and need help finding a therapist you can call the Access Center from Atlantic Behavioral Health at 973-247-1400. Outside of this area you can log onto the US Department of Health and Human Services Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration website for referrals in your area. You can also contact your insurance company to get a list of in-network mental health providers or check with your school social worker or psychologist to get a list of referrals in your area.
You can also contact the Self-Injury Hotline (information only, not a crisis line) at 1-800-DON’T-CUT, 1-800-366-8288.
If you get to the point that you are seriously considering suicide or are afraid of your impulses then you need to seek help immediately. You can call 911 or go to your nearest hospital emergency room. In northern
Signed: TeenHealthFX
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