Significant Others: Girlfriends & Boyfriends / Question
Published: April 7, 2008
Dear TeenHealthFX,
I'm 15 and have been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months. we have already started talking about marriage in the future. the other day, he asked me if i would marry him when i graduated! i want to know if i'm in love or not. We spend a lot of time together and we always say i love you and tell each other how much we care about each other. i think he's perfect for me and I want to know if this is love. I've been through lots of crushes but none of them have ever felt so promising. I know this if its different and was wondering if I'm in love or not?
Signed: 15 Year Old Boyfriend Asked Me To Marry Him
Dear 15 Year Old Boyfriend Asked Me To Marry Him,
TeenHealthFX cannot tell you whether or not you love this person – only you can know that by how you are feeling in your heart about him. What FX does want you to think about is that this person may be the one love of your life and the one you will marry and be with forever, or he may be one of a few loves that you will have in your life since many people have more than one significant relationship and person that they love in their lives before they find the person they are going to marry.
FX would also like you to consider that 15 is very young to be thinking about marriage – and that by focusing on what your future with one another will be, you are taking the focus off of what you have and can be enjoying in the here and now. If you love this person, love him and enjoy your time together right now and know that it is okay to let your relationship with one another slowly unfold rather than having it all planned out at 15. In addition, make sure that you are both putting energy into friendships and developing yourselves with school or extra-curricular activities and hobbies. Relationships are wonderful and it can feel very exciting to grow as a couple – but it is equally important for yourself and for your relationship for you to be growing as an individual as well.
Signed: TeenHealthFX
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