Significant Others: Girlfriends & Boyfriends / Question
Published: July 30, 2008
Dear TeenHealthFX,
hey i was in a 3 1/2 year relationship with my ex. There was really not much of a break up he just said he would talk to me later and then got back in his car to go to school. I started talking to him again after two months. I wanted to know truth about why he did wat he did, leaving me on a cliff hanger pretty much. The problem is that is still love him very much and i think he still loves me too. He was getting stressed out because we were going through a rough time and that i wouldn't give him a bj. He said he didn't want to cheat on me during the realtionship so that is why he did what he did. Was is wrong of him to do it? And should i think about giving him another chance?
Signed: Was It Wrong Of My BF To Break Up With Me Because He Was Worried About Cheating?
Dear Was It Wrong Of My BF To Break Up With Me Because He Was Worried About Cheating?,
Seeing that you were in a three and a half year relationship with your ex, it feels to TeenHealthFX that he did not show any respect to your relationship history and the commitment you made to one another by leaving you with such a “cliff hanger.” You certainly deserved a more complete and considerate break up instead of what occurred, which seems to have left you feeling confused and dejected.
FX understands that you may miss him, but before you automatically take him back FX urges you to consider the reasons for your break-up and the manner in which your relationship ended. It is important for you to think about whether it is really okay with you that he broke up with you because he could not respect your sexual limits and that he did not go about the break-up in a more caring, courteous manner. Whether or not you should even consider giving him another chance depends on how you really feel about these things. Does your love for him outweigh your indignation at the injustices he did to you or not?
If you do decide to take him back, explain to him the pain he caused you by his abrupt break up. Try to improve your communication skills in your relationship, let him know that he needs to find a way to deal with stress and cheating issues in a way that does not end up being hurtful to you, and most importantly remember to stay true to your limits when it comes to physical intimacy – don’t do anything you are not ready to do just to appease your ex or in an attempt to make the relationship work.
Signed: TeenHealthFX
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