When Single Parents Date / Question
Published: January 21, 2009
Dear TeenHealthFX,
what do i do when my mom gets married to a hateful man who is very disrespectful and rude changes my mom, and your mom starts to blame you for being born
Signed: Mom Is Marrying A Hateful Man
Dear Mom Is Marrying A Hateful Man,
TeenHealthFX is sorry to hear that you are dealing with such a difficult situation in terms of dealing with your mom’s new relationship and feeling at such a loss as to what to do about this stressful situation. The first thing FX recommends you do is to schedule some alone time with your mother where the two of you can have a private talk. Let her know that you are concerned about her relationship with this man, that you often feel hurt by how he relates to you, and that you are feeling like she is becoming angry and resentful of you. If you are worried about how your mother will take this, let her know that you are not bringing this up to start trouble or to be difficult – but that you feel hurt and are worried about your relationship with her, so you want to talk things out to make the situation better.
If speaking with your mother is not helpful, then think about whether there is a family member – an aunt, uncle, grandparent, or anyone else who can intervene on your behalf. If you do not have an extended relative to go to, consider meeting with a school counselor or private therapist. A counselor or therapist could also advocate on her behalf, as well as to give you guidance and support in how to deal with this situation.
No matter what happens, FX wants you to remember that you are a wonderful and worthy person. If your mother or her new husband suggest otherwise, or blames you for having been born, remember that it is their issue and not yours.
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Signed: TeenHealthFX
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