Parents & Family / Question
Published: March 12, 2003
Dear TeenHealthFX,
My dad walked out on my family when i was 7 or 8... i am now 17 almost 18 and it really upsets me. I have NO relationship with my mom, only my brother does. I dont remember his face or anything about him. i remember memories before he left, but none about him. WHy have i blocked out my dad? I miss him and want to remember him.
Signed: Blocked Out Dad That Walked Out - Why?
Dear Blocked Out Dad That Walked Out - Why?,
It is unusual that you do not remember anything about your dad if he was around until you were 7 or 8 years old, and TeenHealthFX understands that you are concerned. Sometimes, without intending to, people block out past experiences that are painful for them. Therapy can often help people recover memories that have been blocked out. It sounds like you have a lot of things to talk about and seeing a therapist could be very helpful for you.
You might consider speaking with a therapist who works with families, who might see you and your mother together. A family therapist might be able to help you strengthen your relationship with your mother. Not only would that make things easier at home, but you might be able to talk with her about your father. You did not mention how close you are with your brother, or whether he is older or younger than you, but we are also wondering if he has any memories of your father, and if speaking with him would help.
If you live in northern New Jersey and would like help finding a therapist you can call the Access Center from Atlantic Behavioral Health at 888.247.1400. If you live outside of northern New Jersey and need help finding a therapist, please call the National Hope Line at (800)784.2433.
Signed: TeenHealthFX
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