Significant Others: Girlfriends & Boyfriends / Question
Published: April 1, 2009
Dear TeenHealthFX,
I am a 15 year old girl that has been unsure of her sexuality for some time now, I currently have a new boyfriend and have been dating a lot of different guys lately, but I have come to realize that when I am with them I do care about them but I don't feel sexually atracted to them. I often have fantasies about girl friends of mine and my best friend specifically. I will have dreams about them too. I do like my boyfriend a lot but I dont get turned on by him like I do some of my girlfriends. But my question is whether I should break up with my boyfriend, because he is such a nice guy and I cant stand him giving his heart to me when i cant give him anything in return, he deserves better, but I cant stand the thought of breaking his heart! Please help! Thanks!
Signed: May Be A Lesbian - Should I Break Up With Boyfriend?
Dear May Be A Lesbian - Should I Break Up With Boyfriend?,
TeenHealthFX thinks that it is important for you to be honest with yourself and with your boyfriend about this situation. If you see that you are attracted to girls and not guys, then you need to accept and deal with that situation. If you truly see your boyfriend as a great guy, then we agree that he deserves a girlfriend who can reciprocate the same kind of feelings he is giving. You can let him know that you will always be there for him with your care and support, but that (because of your sexual orientation) you cannot be there for him in a romantic way and that you feel he deserves someone who can. The fact is that your boyfriend may feel hurt, sad and disappointed. However, FX thinks it would be even sadder for him to invest more and more time with someone who is clear she does not want what he does.
Signed: TeenHealthFX
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