ME & Relationships / Question
Published: June 24, 2009
Dear TeenHealthFX,
I know you get so many questions, but I'm begging you, PLEASE answer this one as I am so confused. I'm a 12 year old girl, and I'm confused about this- I sometimes get huge crushes on TV cartoon and/or reality show characters. (like ChalkZone, Star Trek XI, etc.) But when I see guys in real life or guys that are supposed to be cute, I feel like throwing up! I am a lesbian in a relashonship with another girl, but why do I have the hots for these imaginery people and not real guys? Signed, A Confused Girl Who Is Bad At Wording Things
Signed: Crushes On TV Characters
Dear Crushes On TV Characters,
There are many steps and stages involved in going from a child who has no interest in romantic relationships to adults who may form long-term romantic relationships with other adults. One of those stages, often experienced by pre-teens and teens, is the period of time where crushes on television stars, movie stars, singers and other celebrities become a big thing. Think of pre-teens and teens who have posters splashed all over their bedroom walls of different celebrities they have crushes on – this is a common thing because these kinds of crushes go on all the time. And even though nothing will come out of these crushes, because there is no personal contact between the teen and his/her crush, it helps that teen to become ready for a crush on a real, live person who that teen actually knows and who has the potential to become a real boyfriend or girlfriend. At 12 there would be nothing unusual about you being more interested at times in these celebrity crushes rather than on real people you know.
FX also wants to remind you that in the pre-teen and teen years there is a lot that goes on with hormones and figuring out one’s sexual identity. This can make all sorts of feelings and thoughts come up – and that is okay. At 12 years old, you still have growing to do in terms of your sexual identity, the kinds of people you are going to be attracted to and so on. So try not to get too worried about this right now.
However, if you find you do continue to worry, FX suggests that you speak to a trusted adult about your concerns so that you can get some more support and guidance with this issue.
Signed: TeenHealthFX
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