Parents & Family / Question
Published: May 9, 2002
Dear TeenHealthFX,
I want to know about the expectations that students have of their parents.
Signed: Expectations For Parents
Dear Expectations For Parents,
TeenHealthFX is assuming that you are an adult. The best way to find out would be to ask your students/children.
Asking your children what they expect of you will be open up communication - especially if you are sincere about it. Reassure them that what they say will be taken seriously and discussed (how in depth the discussion is depends upon the age of the student).
Also, most children want to know that their parents are there for them and really interested in their lives. They might seem like they do not want you meddling but by being available you let them know that you are there when they need you. You will find that they might just come to talk to you about important issues.
Another expectation that children have is to be treated with respect. Children (and adults) prefer to be spoken to, not at. They expect a level of trust that corresponds to their age and maturity. Try not to judge children by their appearance.
Kids expect parents to make them tow the line. They do not want or need their parents to be a friend, rather to hold them to high (not unreasonably high) standards and enforce limits but not be abusive - not hitting or yelling as a punishment.
Kids need parents who are loving and caring, are active in their lives, and are accepting of the people they are trying to become. Remember the best person to ask what is expected of you would be your student!
Signed: TeenHealthFX
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