When Crushes Or Dating Gets Between Friends / Question
Published: December 12, 2001
Dear TeenHealthFX,
I have been friends with another girl since 3rd grade (we are juniors now). She is very flirty and physically throws herself into guys' laps, leans on them, and forces the attention onto her. It's hard to deal with and getting worse, especially now that her steady boyfriend has graduated and won't be there for us to remind her about. I can't develop close friendships with any mutual guy friends because she's always there. Talking to her doesn't work--she plays innocent. I don't want to ruin our friendship but I can't put up with it much longer. Any suggestions?
Signed: Flirty Friend
Dear Flirty Friend,
Well, it sounds like you have a decision to make. Unfortunately, TeenHealthFX can not make this one for you. Only you can decide if this friendship is worth it.
Since you cannot change her behavior, and you have tried to speak with her about how it affects you, there is little else you can do. Maybe you need to try one more time and let her know that your friendship is on the line. Tell her how you feel and use specific examples. Be straight with her, let her know you cannot handle it any longer.
TeenHealthFX knows this will not be easy but recommends it nonetheless.
Signed: TeenHealthFX
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