Oral & Anal Sex / Question
Published: April 24, 2002
Dear TeenHealthFX,
I have recently begun having oral sex with my boyfriend and I have found that I don't like giving him blowjobs. It makes my neck hurt, makes me gag and sometimes it takes forever for him to climax. He is really very sweet though and has never ejaculated in my mouth. He always stops me before that occurs. He always worries about me and tries his best to please me so I feel bad and don't want to tell him I dislike giving him blowjobs. Is there some way I can make it more bearable or enjoyable for me or do I just have to put up with it?
Signed: Dislike Of Blowjobs
Dear Dislike Of Blowjobs,
You do not have to put up with anything that you are not comfortable doing. It is important to be able to please your partner but your feelings also have to be considered. Your boyfriend sounds like a nice guy. Why don't you talk to him about your concerns and try to come to an arrangement that is comfortable for both of you. It may help to look at TeenHealthFX's response to My Girlfriend Gets Sick Giving Me Oral Sex.
As a side note, when performing any type of sexual activity, you should practice safer sex, even with oral sex. You can use condoms on males with oral sex as well as sexual intercourse. For females, you can use dental dams or a condom cut along the seam to cover the vaginal area during oral sex. This can help to prevent sexually transmitted diseases. When you decide to become sexually active, both you and your partner should be seen at a teen health center or local Planned Parenthood. They can check you both out medically, go over birth control methods with you and discuss any questions you may have.
If you would like to see a doctor from the Adolescent/Young Adult Center For Health in Morristown, New Jersey, you can call 973.971.6475 for an appointment.
Signed: TeenHealthFX
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