Sexual Readiness? / Question
Published: January 27, 2004
Dear TeenHealthFX,
My boyfriend is at my house almost every day and we have been dating for 2 almost 3 months and he is very sweet about the whole sex thing and we love each other, we talked about it, and i keep thinking im ready but i usualy never am and he keeps getting 'blue balls' and i feel really bad about it and he said that i could give him head to help fix the problem even though i dont want to do that. Should i?
Signed: BF Says I Can Give Him Head To Fix Blue Balls - Should I?
Dear BF Says I Can Give Him Head To Fix Blue Balls - Should I?,
No you should not. TeenHealthFX thinks the cardinal rule about sex is if you don't want to have sex, then don't have sex. Sex (whether it's intercourse or oral or any other kind of sex) is supposed to be enjoyable for both people involved. It isn't about making someone feel better or doing a favor for someone else; it's about two people feeling ready to express their love and affection for each other in a very intimate way.
Print out our answer to Curious About Blue Balls for your boyfriend so he can find other ways to deal with this issue without pressuring you. Remember that he is not being "sweet" if he's pressuring you to get something he wants.
Signed: TeenHealthFX
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