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Published: November 21, 2002
Dear TeenHealthFX,
My boyfriend and I are getting really serious and I know that soon I'm going to be naked in front of him. How can I be sure I don't look disgusting naked? How can I be sure that I look right? What am I supposed to look like naked?
Signed: Worried About Being Naked
Dear Worried About Being Naked,
It sounds like by "getting really serious" you mean that you and your boyfriend are getting ready to become sexually active. As you know, this is a very big step for any couple to take. TeenHealthFX hopes that you give the decision some serious thought before you go ahead.
A healthy sexual relationship is based on, among other things, genuine caring, mutual respect and trust. It is important that you feel safe and comfortable both emotionally and physically with your partner before you are sexually intimate with them.
If you and your boyfriend do feel that you are ready to handle the responsibility of being sexually active, then the answer to your question is simple. There is no such thing as the "right way" to look naked. By the same token, "disgusting" just doesn't exist. Everyone is different - the trick is finding a person who cares for the inside of you enough to celebrate all of the little differences about you that make you unique and special. In other words, the things that make you - well, you.
Please make sure that you know, without a doubt that this is the right decision. Your mind and heart will tell you if it is right. Also take the time to see a doctor or go to a teen health clinic or your local Planned Parenthood before continuing in your sexual relationship. At this appointment, you can discuss birth control, safer sex and answer any questions you may have. If you live in Northern New Jersey you can contact the Adolescent Young Adult Center for Health at (973) 971.6475.
Signed: TeenHealthFX
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