Pregnancy: General Pregnancy And Pregnancy Prevention Questions/Concerns / Question
Published: September 24, 2007
Dear TeenHealthFX,
Is i possible that a guy does not prematurely cum? my boyfriend is claiming that he doesn't
Signed: Boyfriend Claims He Has No Pre-Ejaculatory Fluids
Dear Boyfriend Claims He Has No Pre-Ejaculatory Fluids,
For our readers who may not know, pre-ejaculatory fluid (also known as “pre-cum”) is the clear, colorless fluid that is secreted from the urethra of a man’s penis when he is aroused. This fluid is usually secreted during arousal, foreplay, or at any earlier stage of sex prior to when the man reaches orgasm and semen is ejaculated. Very often men are not aware of the sensation of secreting pre-ejaculatory fluids and, therefore, might not even be aware that it is happening.
Pre-ejaculatory fluid does serve a function – it prepares the urethra for the passage of semen, it lubricates the movement of the penis, and it lubricates the foreskin over the glans. The difference between men is not whether or not pre-ejaculatory fluids are ever present – but more a question of how much is present. The amount of pre-cum present can vary from barely noticeable to an evident flow.
In terms of your boyfriend’s claims, FX thinks there are two possibilities. The first is that he is not educated about what pre-ejaculatory fluids are – what they look like, when they are secreted, and how there can be a different amount secreted among different men. And, as we stated above, many men are not aware of the sensation of secreting pre-ejaculatory fluids – especially younger men who are more inexperienced with sex – so he may not even be aware he secretes this fluid. If this is the case, FX recommends that you show this question and answer to your boyfriend so that he is more educated about it.
The second possibility of why your boyfriend is claiming he does not secrete pre-ejaculatory fluids is that he would like to be sexually active with you, but prefers to use the withdrawal or “pulling out” method rather than to use a condom. By convincing you he has no pre-ejaculatory fluids, he may hope that you will agree not to use a condom and just let him pull out. In case you are not aware, the withdrawal method refers to a man removing his penis from a woman’s vagina prior to ejaculating semen. This method of birth control is certainly not as effective as other methods (such as condoms or the pill) at preventing unwanted pregnancies since sperm is present in pre-ejaculatory fluids. This method also offers no protection against STIs. For these two reasons this method of birth control is not recommended for teens. So if you feel like your boyfriend is using this claim to avoid practicing safer sex – FX recommends that you let him know that he is entitled to believe whatever he wants about his pre-ejaculatory fluids, but that you believe not using a condom and a back-up birth control method, like the pill or patch, to protect yourself against unwanted pregnancies and the transmission of STIs is not a smart decision for you.
If you, or your boyfriend, have any other questions about safer sex practices, please speak with your doctors or an adolescent medicine specialist. If you and your boyfriend don't have doctors and live in northern
Signed: TeenHealthFX
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