Healthy Ways Of Losing And Gaining Weight / Question
Published: November 5, 2002
Dear TeenHealthFX,
I am an 18 year old female, and at 5'6" I weigh 240 lbs. The rest of my family tends to be over weight as well. I realize this is unhealthy. I have spoken to my doctor about this in the past, but diets and exercise don't seem to have any effect on me. I eat healthily and walk for long periods of time every day. I'm a college sophomore and have never been on a date; I think it is because of my weight. I am generally a happy person and have many loving friends, but this is something that makes me sad quite often. I guess my questions is, is there any way to get genetic weight off? And why does it seem like appearance is the main issue with guys? Aren't there any out there that like bigger cuddly girls?
Signed: Any Way To Get Genetic Weight Off
Dear Any Way To Get Genetic Weight Off,
The best thing for anyone who is concerned about their weight to do is just what you have done -- see a doctor or nutritionist and get on a reasonable program that incorporates a healthy, well-balanced diet and a regular exercise regime.
It has been documented that the tendency to be thin or heavy often runs in families and those genes can in fact affect a person's weight. But while some studies have shown that a person's weight is at least partially determined by genes, that does not mean that you are doomed to being overweight for the rest of your life. Again, a consultation with a doctor or nutritionist with whom you can share your family's history is an important step in developing a program that meets your particular needs.
Lastly, it also seems that you are able to maintain fulfilling relationships with your peers, which we know is very important in maintaining a sense of happiness and well-being. As far as dating goes, it is unfortunately true that many men can be superficial about what they look for in a potential date or female companion. But are those the people you want to surround yourself with? Rather than looking for someone who likes "bigger" girls, how about looking for a guy who's looking for a good person first and foremost. After all, satisfying relationships are built on issues like trust, mutual respect, shared interests and friendship and not on those things physical.
If you would like to meet with a doctor to talk more about any of these issues, you can call the Adolescent/young Adult Center For Health at 973.971.6475 for an appointment
Signed: TeenHealthFX
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