It depends on which family member. If it is a sibling who is using drugs, you can certainly speak to that sibling and voice your concerns. You could ask your sibling what is making him/her turn to drugs and let him/her know what specifically bothers you about the drug use. You could also encourage your sibling to seek out help for him/herself. In addition to speaking to your sibling on your own, TeenHealthFX would definitely recommend that you talk to your parents/guardians about the situation so that they can intervene on your sibling’s behalf. Drug abuse is a very serious thing – if you have a sibling who is using it is important that the situation is addressed as soon as possible. Your sibling may be angry with you for telling your parents, but hopefully they will come to the realization at some point that you speaking out about this came from a place of love, care and concern. FX would also say that kids and teens who use drugs have a much better chance of successfully dealing with their drug problem when they have the support and involvement of their parents/guardians. If you have a sibling who is using drugs, you could also encourage your parents to participate in family therapy aimed at addressing the substance use in addition to whatever other treatment methods may be indicated.
If it is a parent/guardian who you suspect is using drugs, FX would suggest you start off by talking to that person directly about your concerns. Let your parent/guardian know why you have come to suspect he/she is using drugs and what your specific concerns are if that is the case. If your parent/guardian admits to using drugs, let him/her know that you want them to stop using drugs because you care about them and their well-being – and because you want them to be around for you as long as possible in as healthy a way as possible. In addition, encourage your parent/guardian to seek out help. If your parent/guardian denies using drugs, but you still suspect they are, or if they admit using drugs but refuse to stop, talk to another trusted adult about your concerns. You could speak to your other parent/guardian, an extended family member, or even a school counselor as an adult may be able to approach your parent/guardian in a way that will be more effective in terms of motivating him/her to stop using. It is certainly possible that a parent/guardian who is using drugs is not able to adequately take care of his/her children. The drug use may lead to neglect or some other kind of abuse. If you suspect a parent/guardian is using drugs and is being abusive in some kind of way, talk to an adult who can intervene on your behalf, such as a school counselor, teacher, or your family doctor to ensure you do not deal with any further abuse or neglect.
It can feel very scary to think (or know) that a family member is using drugs. FX thinks it is important for you to communicate your concerns and feelings to that family member, and for you to speak to other trusted adults about the situation so that you are not dealing with this all on your own. Living with a family member who uses drugs can be very difficult - so you need people in your life you can be there for you with support and guidance.
For more information on drug abuse and addition, check out Helpguide.org.
If someone in your family wants to seek out treatment for drug use, you can give them the following information:
If you live in northern New Jersey and need help finding a therapist you can call the Access Center from Atlantic Behavioral Health at 888-247-1400. Outside of this area you can log onto the US Department of Health and Human Services Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration website for referrals in your area. You can also contact your insurance company to get a list of in-network mental health providers or check with your school social worker or psychologist to get a list of referrals in your area.