Hurt When Boyfriend Fingered Me
Published: July 20, 2003
Dear TeenHealthFX,
Me and my boyfriend have been very sexually active. We have done everything but sex. But about 2 - 3 days ago he fingered me in my pool. He did it three times also. Now, I've been fingered many times before and by a lot of different people, but when he did it the last time in the pool it hurt. I told him to stop because it hurt. When he asked why, I told him his nails were digging in to me - because I was embarrassed to tell him I didn't know why it hurt. Since then he has tried to finger me again. I want to let him but I don't want it to hurt again. I didn't cum when he did it any of the times, if that matters. Is there something wrong with me?? And does it have anything to do with the position we were in, or anything to do with being in the pool?
Signed: Hurt When Boyfriend Fingered Me
Dear Hurt When Boyfriend Fingered Me,
We can't tell you for sure why it hurt when your boyfriend fingered you, but we can offer some thoughts. It may well have had to do with the position you both were in at the time. Or he was being rougher than people have been in the past. Or you may not have been as lubricated as you were when you've enjoyed being fingered in the past. In fact, sometimes when you're in a swimming pool your natural lubrication gets washed away and penetration (of any kind) can be more painful.
We doubt there's anything wrong with you - being fingered can hurt sometimes, and you may just need to spend a little time figuring out exactly how it needs to be done so you enjoy it. However, if you continue to experience pain upon penetration, we suggest you see a doctor to make sure everything is OK. If you do not have a doctor and you live in Northern New Jersey, please call the Adolescent/Young Adult Center for Health at (973) 971.6475. If you live elsewhere, get in touch with your local adolescent health center or Planned Parenthood.
Signed: TeenHealthFX
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