Need to Control my Anger

Published: November 02, 2017
Dear TeenHealthFX,
i really need help im a girl and i'm not perfect and sometimes i do really stupid things and people get mad at me for that. and i'm okay like i know when i messed up i can handle people being mad at me what i can't handle is after the fact because then i take all that anger and i turn it on myself! i've been doing this for years! i just don't handle my anger i just put it inside. and now its like coming out in all these crazy ways and i'm scared. my hair is falling out my stomach hurts all the time i'm throwing up like crazy and i can't relax. i just get so angry about every little fucking thing i just can't stop crying anymore. i only have one friend and i can't even talk to him cause then i get angry and make him cry. and my family doesn't want to hear it they only care when something bad happens thats like their cue to get mad too lol. i feel like im going crazy. i need to control my anger or cut it out or something i feel like i'm going to yell so loud and lose it one day and just drop dead from my heart just not taking it anymore. HELP!!!
Signed: Need to Control my Anger

Dear Need to Control my Anger,

TeenHealthFX appreciates that things are difficult at the moment, and reminds you that strategies for positive change exist.

You described feeling like you make “stupid decisions” that cause your peers to become mad at you. FX suggests writing down examples of some of these decisions. Doing so may allow you to recognize which actions cause you to feel down about yourself. TeenHealthFX reminds you that the purpose of this activity is to create positive behavior change; not to dwell on past events and become angry at yourself.

You mentioned that you often turn anger on yourself and bottle up emotions. Since this habit is taking a toll on both your emotional and physical health, TeenHealthFX suggests scheduling an appointment with a mental health professional. FX appreciates how difficult things must be feeling for you right now, but we do believe that things can get better for you if you have support and guidance from an experienced therapist.

If you live in northern New Jersey and need help finding a therapist you can call the Access Center from Atlantic Behavioral Health at 888-247-1400. Outside of this area you can log onto the US Department of Health and Human Services Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration website for referrals in your area. You can also contact your insurance company to get a list of in-network mental health providers or check with your school social worker or psychologist to get a list of referrals in your area.

If you get to the point that you are seriously considering suicide or are afraid of your impulses, then you need to seek help immediately. You can call 911 or go to your nearest hospital emergency room. In northern New Jersey you can also call the crisis hotline from Morristown Memorial hospital at 973-540-0100. Outside this area call the National Suicide Hotline at 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433), available 24 hours a day, or the Suicide & Crisis Hotline, 1-800-999-9999, 24 hours, 7 days a week.


Signed: TeenHealthFX