My Dad Sexually Abused Me. What Should I Do?

Published: March 16, 2016
Dear TeenHealthFX,

I'm 11 years old and my dad put his thingy in my butthole. It hurts really bad and this reddish looking orb came out of my butt when he was done. It's been 3 days and it hasn't gone back in, what should I do?

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Dear My Dad Sexually Abused Me. What Should I Do?,

Your father putting his penis inside of you is a form of sexual abuse. It is absolutely not okay that he did this to you, so it is very important that you tell a trusted adult right away what happened. You could tell a family member, such as your mother, an aunt or grandparent. If you are not comfortable talking to a family member about this, or you do tell a family member and they don’t do anything about it, then it is important to talk to a trusted adult outside of the family. One option would be to talk to someone at your school since you would be able to tell a school staff member right away and they will know how to handle the situation. You could tell your school nurse, a teacher, school counselor or even your principal. Another option would be to talk to a friend’s parent, coach or neighbor about what happened.

It might feel hard to tell someone about what your father did. You may worry that somehow you are betraying his trust. But your father needs help to make sure he does not do this ever again, and you need to be protected to make sure this never happens to you again. And since you are worried there might be some kind of medical concern, it is also important that you meet with your doctor so he/she can decide whether there is a medical issue that needs to be addressed. So please talk to an adult as soon as possible.

For more information and help with this, you can also read the RAINN article, I Am a Kid and Something Happened.

You can also contact the Childhelp National Abuse Hotline at 800-422-4453 to be connected to a trained volunteer who can walk you through what to do and what to expect.  

Signed: TeenHealthFX