I Feel Unsafe Around My Mom and Step-Dad

Published: January 30, 2018
Dear TeenHealthFX,
I feel like I have literally nothing to live for. My step-dad hits me, my mom seems to constantly scream at me more and more and cusses at me. She'd rather choose her husband over me and he said that he doesn't want nothing to do with me.I want to know if it's legal for someone (that's not even in your blood) to hit you. Last year around January; I lied to my parents A LOT. I had a boyfriend and he touched me inappropriately and they called the cops on me, the school gave me a restraining order against him and that was the end. The only part that got me SUPER PISSED OFF was when my my mom found out; my sister snitched on me and then my mom beat me I had scratches my eyes were puffy/swollen and then the same thing happened with my step-dad, he started slapping me in the face and pulling my hair and screaming and yelling at me. I feel SO unsafe around him and I don't want anything to do with him. I don't want to run away bc I have no where to go, and I don't know what to do. PLEASE HELP...
Signed: I Feel Unsafe Around My Mom and Step-Dad

Dear I Feel Unsafe Around My Mom and Step-Dad,

TeenHealthFX is very sorry to hear about the terrible situation you are in right now. We can absolutely appreciate that you would be feeling hopeless, sad, angry and scared about it. Given what you have been dealing with, we can also understand that you have had thoughts of running away. However, running away is not going to be a helpful or safe solution for you, so we certainly hope you will not resort to something like that. What we would like you to know is that there are caring, trustworthy people out there who will want to be helpful to you with this situation. We would also like to assure you that things can get better.

In order for things to get better for you, professional adults need to intervene on your behalf so you and your family members get the help that is needed to ensure that your home environment is a safe one. You can either speak to a staff member at school, such as a teacher, school counselor, nurse, or principal, who can contact child protective services. Or you can contact a child abuse hotline yourself (the contact information is listed below).

Whomever you speak to, it is important to clearly and specifically describe how you are being hurt emotionally and physically in your home right now. It is also important to be clear with whomever you are speaking to if you are concerned about how your mom and step-dad will respond to professionals intervening so that the people who are there to help you, deal with this matter in a way that will keep you safe.  

Again, FX can appreciate how awful this has been for you and that it must be very difficult to believe that things in your life can get better given the current state of things. But know that there are people who will want to be there to help you with this right now in your life, and that eventually you will be an adult who will have the power to make your own home as safe and loving and you need and want it to be. But getting to that place starts with your reaching out for help so you can get the support and guidance you need, and so you are not dealing with this all alone. So please reach out for help as soon as possible.

The Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline is dedicated to the prevention of child abuse. Serving the U.S. and Canada, the hotline is staffed 24 hours a day, 7 days a week with professional crisis counselors who—through interpreters—provide assistance in over 170 languages. The hotline offers crisis intervention, information, and referrals to thousands of emergency, social service, and support resources. All calls are confidential. 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453.

Signed: TeenHealthFX