Want To Pursue A Career In Singing

Published: July 06, 2012
Dear TeenHealthFX,

This morning I told my mom that I want to pursue a career in singing. (Rock or country.) Her answer to it was "You need to do something better with your life then that." She also said she wouldn't approve of me being famous and living that kind of life. It really hurt me that she didn't support my dream, I have been hiding it for a long time because I was afraid of this exact thing. I've told a few others and while they seemed supportive, I could tell they were doubtful/ skeptical. The only person who really supports me is my on & off boyfriend, but I would like the support of at least my immediate family. The only reason I told my mother is because there is a 5 round karaoke competition I entered coming up. I guess the question I'm getting at is, should I even pursue this dream with the support of only one person? I don't know what to do, I've wanted this for so long and now I'm getting just a little bit closer, then this. I just don't know what to do. Who knows, maybe I'm not even good enough to make it that far.

Dear Want To Pursue A Career In Singing,

Consider this quote from Randy Pausch the author of “The Last Lecture”.

“The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. They’re there to stop the other people.”

If you want to pursue a career in singing you are going to come across a lot of brick walls. A big part of it is that not many people are able to make a successful career out of it. There is intense competition for just a few opportunities. Hundreds of thousands of people have tried out for American Idol and similar shows but only a handful has seen success. Having said that, all the people who made it, started out with the same dream you have. Just because something is hard doesn’t mean you shouldn’t give it your best shot. The person that needs to believe in you the most is you.

Your mother may not realize the impact of her words and not recognize how important it is to you. It would be a good idea to sit down and talk to her and get her to understand that this is really important and not just a fantasy to you. It would also be helpful for you to have a plan B on how you could support yourself while pursuing a singing career. This doesn’t mean you are not committed to be successful, it will show mom that you are also being practical.

You should definitely enter the karaoke competition. Let your family how much it would mean to you having them at the show to support you. The only way you or your family will know if you are good enough is if you go out there and give it a try. Not all dreams come true but you can usually walk away if you have given it your best, otherwise the dream turns into regret.





Signed: TeenHealthFX