What Is The Best Way To Come Out To My Parents?

Published: September 03, 2020
Dear TeenHealthFX,
what is the best way to come out to your parents?
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Dear What Is The Best Way To Come Out To My Parents,

TeenHealthFX thanks you for asking this question as many teens may be going the same thing. First, we want to acknowledge how scary this can be no matter how old you are. Even thinking about how you want to approach your parents is a huge first step and you should be very proud of yourself!

How and when a teenager comes out to there parents really depends on each individual situation. There is no single solution and requires each person to consider the following:

Pick a good time. Try to set a time and place to have an open, honest conversation with them. Ask them when a good time is to sit down and have a mature conversation. Try to avoid talking to them while they are working, cleaning, or otherwise stressed out about daily life.

Be prepared to explain why. At first, it may be hard for your parents to understand why you feel the way you do. Explaining how you feel is easier than trying to define who you are.

Practice with another trusted adult or friend.  Plan out what you want to say and practice responses for possible questions and reactions your parents may have. This way you can stay calm and try to explain without getting frustrated.

Have patience. Some parents may be accepting right away, and others may need some time to get used to it. Be patient and give them time to adjust and ask you questions if they have them. Keep your cool and use this as an opportunity to teach your parents.

Have back up support, if needed.  After coming out to your parents you may be facing many emotions. Seek help from a friend, trusted adult, or counselor to help your process and get through the emotions.

Remember, you aren’t alone. If you need help finding additional support, check out our LGBTQ resource page by clicking here.

Good luck!

Signed: TeenHealthFX