Can Oral Sex Be Less Risky?

Published: August 28, 2023
Dear TeenHealth FX,
Hi, Im 18 and my boyfriend is 25. He loves oral sex and I've done this a lot for him. Five months ago he talked me into fulfilling one of his fantasies which was to watch me giving oral sex to a complete stranger and he took me out in the car and he pulled up by a random guy and asked him if he'd like me to give him oral sex while my boyfriend watched. He was wary at first but soon got into the car with us after we parked in a quiet location I did it with this guy in the back while my boyfriend watched from the front. My boyfriend loved it and was so turned on and after dropping this guy off we had fantastic sex afterwards. Soon we did it again and I enjoy the sex afterwards and it has become a regular thing in our sex life. Recently my boyfriend has started pulling up alongside a couple of guys if he sees them. I don't mind but we've done this now with more than 40 guys so far. I've had no I'll effects so far and understand oral sex is low risk but my boyfriend wants to continue this indefinitely and I'm going with it for the sex afterwards. My best friend was horrified when I told her what we are doing and thinks I should dump him but we get on really well and sex is great with him. Are there any ways to make this less risky? Charlotte.
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Dear Can Oral Sex Be Less Risky?,

TeenHealthFX is glad you asked this question. Based on the information you provided, there are a couple of things we want to mention.  

First, you mention being uncomfortable in this situation. If at any time you feel uncomfortable, you should speak up. We understand that this situation can be confusing, and it is hard to determine exactly how you feel. However, no is no regardless of him being a boyfriend, partner, friend, or stranger.  

Second, to make this situation less risky, it would be best to stop performing oral sex on strangers and/or ensure you are using a condom each time this occurs. The only way to prevent STI/STDs during oral sex is by using a condom, dental dam, or other barrier method every single time. If you are not familiar with the sexual history of each person you are performing oral sex on, that can increase your chances of STDs. In addition, the more partners you have, the more likely you are to get contract one. For more information on STI’s, click here.   

TeenHealthFX strongly recommends that you get tested for sexually transmitted infection as many do not show symptoms and can be passed along without warning. If you need help finding a doctor and live in northern New Jersey, you can call the Adolescent/Young Adult Center for Health at 973-971-5199 for an appointment with an adolescent medicine specialist. For additional questions we have answered regarding sexually transmitted infections/diseases, click here Sexually Transmitted Diseases (

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