Stuck In Friend Zone

Published: March 01, 2014
Dear TeenHealthFX,

I'm 13 and I’m a guy and well there is this girl that I like and I want to ask her out on a date like to go see a movie or something but I don't know what to do. I’ve known this girl for 3 years she knows I like her because I asked her to dance at our schools Valentine’s day dance and her mom used to babysit me so I would go to her house after school a lot. I also went to all her birthday parties for 3 years I know her really well and she knows me really well. I want to ask her out because I really like her but I don't want to ruin our friendship if we break up also I’m afraid if I ask her out she will say no and I’ll be stuck in the friend zone. What do I do please help!!

Dear Stuck In Friend Zone,

Assuming she is the same age as you this may not even be an issue. There is a good chance that she may not be allowed to date at this age. So you could be pondering this decision for nothing

Nonetheless this often is a tough situation for adolescents to be in. Part of the reason is that none of us really likes rejection. But the reality is that this is a part of the equation in life. The big difference is how you deal with it. It you over personalize it and attribute it to some deficiency you, it is probably going to hurt a lot more. If you accept that the connection was just not there, then it is much easier to bounce back. Besides, feelings change over time and you never know what the future could bring. In the meantime is being in the friend zone really all that bad?

Signed: TeenHealthFX