It’s often so hard when we are unsure about a situation. Do you bring it up and make an issue and then it turns out to be nothing? Or do you say nothing and let these feelings fester? It is a hard position to be in.
Have you tried speaking with a close friend or family member who knows the situation with your boyfriend? Sometimes talking with someone who has an outsider’s perspective can make you see different sides of the story.
Also go with your true feelings about the situation. Ask yourself this question first. Do you trust your boyfriend? If you answered no, then maybe you should look at your relationship as a whole. Why don’t you trust him? What has he done that made you not trust him? Often times you will find when the trust is gone from a relationship, it can be hard to repair.
If you do trust your boyfriend, then maybe you could start a conversation by saying to him something like I understand your concern about your ex but I just want to make sure there are no unresolved feelings there? It is often easier to write down what you want to say and how you would react given his response. It’s always a good idea to keep calm and express your thoughts clearly so your boyfriend understands you are coming from a place of concern. Your boyfriend should be receptive to you and your feelings and concerns about the situation. If he brushes you off or says something like “you’re crazy” there may be cause for concern.
While there may never be a perfect answer to all this, you and your personal happiness are what’s most important here. Do not ever put your feeling aside to make someone else happy.
70% of youth in juvenile justice systems have at least one mental health condition 1
Young drivers are 17 times more likely to die in a crash when they have a blood alcohol concentration of .08% 2
More than half of transgender male teens reported attempting suicide in their lifetime 3
33% of adolescents in America are victim to sexual, physical, verbal, or emotional dating abuse. 4
Alcohol is the number one substance teens in America abuse 5
About half of 9th through 12th grade students reported ever having used marijuana 6
Suicide is the second leading cause of death for college-age youth and ages 12-18. 7
Young people aged 15–24 years acquire half of all new STDs 8
One in four sexually active adolescent females has an STD, such as chlamydia or human papillomavirus 9
In 2017, chlamydial infection among persons aged 15–24 years, represented 62.6% of all chlamydia cases. 10
Herpes simplex virus is the most prevalent of sexually transmitted infections 11
About 21 percent of students ages 12–18 reported being bullied at school during the school year 12
In the next 24 hours, 2,795 teenage girls will become pregnant 13
71% of all teenagers use Facebook 14
Only 1 in 5 teenagers who suffer from anxiety receive treatment. 15
90% of daily tobacco users begin by age 18 16
More teens die from prescription drugs than heroin and cocaine combined. 17
45% of high school students report being stressed all the time 18
In 2017, 5455 teenagers died from an overdose 19
37.3 percent of 12th graders reporting vaping in the past 12 months 20
30 percent of teens with depression also develop a substance abuse problem 21
People age 12-20 drink 11% of all alcohol consumed in the United States 22
At least 80% of sexually active people will have an HPV infection at some point in their lifetime 23
In 2016, 56 percent of deaths among passenger vehicle occupants ages 16-19 were drivers 24
In pregnancies among 15–19 years old, 75% were unintended 25
Hispanic and Black Teens have the highest teen birth rate 26
Young women ages 15-19 account for 12.2 percent of abortions 27
1 in 3 young people will be in an abusive or unhealthy relationship 28
50% of young people who experience rape or physical or sexual abuse will attempt to commit suicide 29