Lied to My Parents and Doctor about Getting My Period
TeenHealhFX can imagine the stress and anxiety you are feeling about this right now. We do recommend that you tell your parents and your doctor the truth that you have never gotten your period. For one thing, it is important your doctor knows this in case there are any underlying medical issues that need to be addressed, such as a hormonal imbalance, that have resulted in your never having had your period. But it is also important that you feel able to talk about these kinds of things with your parents and with your doctor so that you have people you feel comfortable going to when you have any questions or concerns about your health.
FX thinks that it is important that your parents understand why you didn’t tell them or your doctor the truth about your period. You didn’t state your reason in what you wrote to FX, however, there is obviously some reason that made it uncomfortable for you to tell them the truth. The question for you is what is the best way to go about telling them? You could sit down and talk with them. You could start by saying that you are worried they are going to be angry with you, but that you really need them to hear you out and try to understand what has gone on. You could write them a note if that feels like an easier way to let them know about this. You could also talk to a school nurse, school counselor or your doctor and then have that person assist you in talking to your parents.
Since you did not specify what you mean by “huge trouble” or why you are so scared of telling them, FX does want to say that if you are concerned they will respond in a way that is abusive in any form, then it is important that you tell your school nurse, school counselor or doctor about this when you speak to that person.
Once this particular issue has been dealt with, it might be helpful for you and your parents to meet with a family therapist to discuss whatever has gone on that has left you feeling so fearful of being honest with them so that hopefully you can get to a place where you feel more comfortable seeking out their help in the future. A staff member at school or your doctor could also help to facilitate this.
If you live in northern New Jersey and need help finding a therapist you can call the Access Center from Atlantic Behavioral Health at 888-247-1400. Outside of this area you can log onto the US Department of Health and Human Services Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration website for referrals in your area. You can also contact your insurance company to get a list of in-network mental health providers or check with your school social worker or psychologist to get a list of referrals in your area.
